Have you ever felt torn between encouraging your child to challenge or extend themselves and worrying that you’re asking too much?
It’s a tough balance to strike, especially for parents of gifted kids. On one hand, you want them to develop self-motivation and resilience. On the other, you’re afraid of being seen as “pushing too hard.” Sometimes it feels easier to step back entirely—but then comes the guilt and frustration when they underperform or miss out on opportunities that matter to them.
This cycle of doubt and hesitation can leave you wondering: Am I doing enough? Too much? How do I help my child thrive without getting it wrong?
Yesterday, my 10-year-old woke up at sunrise.
By 7:30 am, he’d already swum in the cool waters of our local lake, shimmied up a nearby cliff with a grin of determination, devoured a mango (in the shower, of course), and logged into his high school math class. Not long after, he packed his own bag for another day at primary school, leaving the house humming with the energy of a morning well lived and proceeded to discuss global politics with me on the walk to school.
It sounds like a lot, but here’s the thing: he chose this. He leaned in because we’ve created a rhythm where his nervous system feels supported, and his motivation comes from within.
This wasn’t always the case.
For years, I struggled with my own pattern of "go, go, go"—early mornings, late nights, and a constant tug-of-war between doing too little and far too much. When my child was born, I realised I had to change. I had to learn how to slow down, respect my own needs, and model a different way of being.
Now, our family operates from a place of balance. Most mornings, we’re up for an adventure; other days, we rest and reconnect. We’ve found a rhythm that respects everyone’s pace—mine included—and it’s inside this space that the magic happens.
What I’ve learned is this: motivation isn’t something we give our kids; it’s something we inspire by creating the right environment and respecting everyones limits.
When we encourage autonomy and reflection—while providing just enough accountability—they naturally build the self-discipline and resilience we want for them. They learn to stretch themselves without tipping into overwhelm, to push through challenges, and to rest intentionally, as a daily ritual.
It’s not about doing more or doing less; it’s about doing it differently.
If this feels like the balance you’re striving for, I’d love to help you create it in your family.
In my coaching, I guide parents of gifted kids to replace guilt and uncertainty with clarity and confidence. Together, we’ll craft a plan tailored to your child’s needs and your family’s unique rhythm—so you can foster self-motivation, resilience, and joy without ever feeling like you’re "pushing."
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In my family, this balance looks like plenty of time for novel movement, generative connection with friends, good books, meaningful contribution, and frequent adventures in nature.
I wonder—what would balance look like in your family?
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